Radiate
If you could see yourself in 10 years, who would you want to be like? Without a moment’s hesitation, he said, “Aragorn.” A high school boy I was counseling wanted to see himself as Aragorn from Lord of the Rings. And he was dead serious. As I investigated, I found what he meant was “strong, independent, and seen by others as a leader.” What this young man wanted was for others to see him for what he desired on the inside. Too often we focus on external observations of us instead of internal transformation. This is why we must get the order right when Peter tells us: “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.’—1 Peter 3:8
The life of blessing is a blessing to other people. It starts at the heart’s core of love, and get this, it radiates out. It radiates out to other people for their blessing and their good. It's not just good feelings and good vibes. It leads itself to action.
Peter gives us five characteristics of the life of blessing, and that life of blessing is because we follow Jesus, The Blessed One. You have like-mindedness, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart (compassion), and humility. They're not chosen at random or to be kept to ourselves, but they demonstrate themselves in action. They radiate out of a heart of love, a heart that's indebted to Jesus and for what He has done for us. 1 Corinthians 12:26 demonstrates how these characteristics radiate and are put on display in action toward others: “If one member suffers, all suffer together, and if one member is honored, all rejoice together.”
Because of the day and age in which we live, I'll give you a warning from my own subjective, personal experience: I found it very hard to celebrate God's blessing in my life for the last 10-15 years. I think it comes from the secular culture of victimhood. Now, listen, victims are real, oppressors are real, and abusers are real. However, my biggest concern is that people begin to see themselves as only victims. If you begin to celebrate anything good in your life, people will tell you to, “tone it down” and “Don't rejoice so loudly because someone else doesn't have or isn't experiencing what you experience. Your celebration is hurting them because they don’t have, or haven’t experienced, what you are.”
1 Corinthians 12 tells us to rejoice with those who are rejoicing, to celebrate the blessings of God, to acknowledge that He did all of this, but it also tells us to suffer with those who suffer. There's an amount of wisdom that's necessary when it comes to empathy and how it displays itself in the life of believers. The biggest thing is that empathy always looks at the other one. It always says, “Who needs to be served, who needs to be encouraged? How can I get involved? How can I demonstrate that? How can I display Jesus' sympathy toward me as a sinner and identify with others to love on them and encourage them and serve them in the process?”
May the wisdom we learn help to humble our pride, strengthen us in our weakness, comfort us in our pain, and make us more deeply sensitive to one another. —Sinclair Ferguson
The more sensitive we become to one another, whether others are rejoicing or suffering, it always leads to action.
How do you know if God is calling you to an assignment of displaying empathy, to serve
someone else, to encourage someone else, to meet a need of someone else? Historically, I've just said this, a need seen is an assignment given. That's how you know! How do you know where empathy worked itself out? You saw a need, and you responded without waiting for someone else to do it.
Written by: Pastor Andy Swart
Andy Swart has been a member of The Mount since 2019. If he’s not working or spending time with his family, you can find him working on one of his passion projects: garage organization.